A:  Various research suggests that some children are more dependent and have trouble separating from their main caregivers.  Their refusal to work alone can be a form of anger expression.  Yet many parents will attempt to help by threatening and withdrawing privileges which only makes matters worse.  Once cognitive disabilities are ruled out, what many of these children need is less critiquing, more backing and parental support.  Encourage independence and praise efforts.  Above all let children know that they are loved regardless of talents.  Along with less interference display appropriate discipline.  Ignoring problem behavior early will only encourage self-esteem issues later.  Watch out for proper actions and praise them:  Good Job, I knew you could do it,  I’m so proud of the way you handled. . . .

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